On Honesty
8 Feb
I read somewhere, one of these last few days, something (haha, real specific) about honesty and friends. Not honesty as the opposite of lying, but more like telling it like it is – giving them your honest opinion, even if it’s harsh. He said something like, he only surrounds himself with completely honest people. I sooo want to be 100% (okay, 92%) honest with some of my friends lately. Everyone is having a really rough time. We’re over a year into this economic bullshit, stuck in the dead of winter and all feeling generally tired. Tired of everything. Then, there is me. Despite a unemployment situation in our house and trying to kick an addiction to alcohol, I am the happiest I have ever been. I attribute this to a clear head, a positive attitude and the ability to put everything into perspective. I want to share this, but these negative nellies need an oversized dose of reality first. Reality and honesty in the form of Wake the hell up! ___ is where you need to start fixing ___.
How honest are you with your friends?
P.S Thank you to my pals who shared a little bit about themselves this weekend!
Brutally! Honest that is! Too much so! Few can take it! I tell it like it is…even to strangers. Sometimes I wish I could learn to lie – or turn it off, then I think 'nah'!
I'm about 85% honest with my long-time friends, closer to 95% on shorter-term friends, which might seem odd, to some. It's just easier to be totally blunt with people who you aren't as invested in, I guess. Plus, I know that my nearest and dearest girls probably know the bad stuff anyways- they don't need me rubbing their noses in it, and I suspect that they're the same way with me.
But, if I ever sense that things with my BFFs are getting critical, I won't hesitate to tell it like it is to help things along.
I try to be 100 % honest, but if it is something that doesn’t really need to be said and it will hurt my friend, I won’t say it, unless something bad will happen if I don’t. Hell, I’m not always honest with myself. But my friends seem to consider me a brutally honest person. I like it that they see me that way.
I even have the Chinese symbol for “truth” permanently tattooed on my inner left arm. I got this directly after revoking my membership from the Adventist church I grew up in. Truth. Its one of the only things that matters.
I wish you could help me with my wardrobe. I have no clothes. Literally some men’s tee shirts and maybe a few stretched out leggings. Its sad.