on retirement
8 Jul
Jim and I always joke that we’re totally prepared for retirement together. For many couples, staying home together day after following years of spending 40+ hours a week apart is horrifying. Us? We’re all set. I will explain in bullet format:
- Jim and I met at work. We worked in the same building for the first 3 years of our relationship. At first, it was cute, but by the time we moved in together and dinner table conversations were all about who-did-what-to-whom at work, we were in trouble.
- Two years ago, just after we returned from our honeymoon, Jim was laid off. A year later, so was I. In our defense, we’re not shit workers and we gave them our best for four years. The travel business, along with the rest of retail went to shit and the women that run that company? Horrible pigs…but I digress.
- Given the economy and being a full-time student, Jim has never found work. He finished up his undergrad program in December and still, nothing. Now he’s all ready to head back to school for his masters and in the meantime he will substitute teach in a few area school districts. Many in-school hours will be needed for his program, so it makes sense. Most of all, I am happy that he made this decision instead of finding any old job that makes him miserable….but staying with it just because of the pay and benefits. I’m a super wife, I know. Oh, and you do remember when I told you this, so it’s not like we’re flat broke and living on the streets.
The point: If you recall, I work from home. Therefore Jim and I spend an insane amount of time together. It can make for petty, petty, did I say petty? fights. Daily. We are subjected to things that most couples aren’t. I know his daily routine along with each one of his bad habits and he knows mine. It’s pretty freaking amazing that we’ve made it this far.
The truth: When he’s gone, like right now, I miss him like Cleveland misses LeBron. Crazy? Absolutely, but at least we’re prepared for our golden years.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” does not apply to Jeremiah and my relationship whatsoever.
It seems that the more time we spend apart the tenser things are…
I have a theory that we have explosive chemistry and when we see each other after being apart for awhile it’s like starting over in that weird beginning phase of a relationship where you adore the person but it’s still tense cause you’re feeling this weird buzzing feeling.
Oh geez. I’m not sure that made any sense whatsoever.
Just the other day I said to a friend that I wished my husband didn’t have to work and could stay home with me all day. She looked at me like my head had suddenly fallen off. But it’s true. And sure he makes me bonkers sometimes but I totally get where you are coming from. And I’m happy that I’m not happy when he goes to work!
this is super sweet, I love reading stuff like this!
We have this dream that someday soon Chris can work from home, and that we can live in different cities around the country/world for a few months at a time (first stop, New Orleans, duh)
we are not big fans of being apart, and huge fans of adventuring together